It’s really easy when things are going wrong in life to get mad… to blame other people or the things happening to you on your disappointment, anger, irritation, etc. Believe me, I've done this. We all do this…
Have you ever said “I can’t believe this is happening to me? Why me?” I have. There was a time in my life when I thought things would always be hard and I would always struggle. But guess what? I learned something powerful…. The things and people in your life have no control over how you feel. I know that is hard to believe, but it’s true.
For many years, I blamed my feelings of inadequacy and insecurity, my anger and sadness, on people and events. I gave all my power away. I gave the power of how I was feeling and my life’s reality to people in my life who didn’t care about me. It took me time, but I’m learning that only I can control my reality. Only I can control my feelings.
Instead of becoming bitter, angry, irritated, and frustrated when my kids, husband, parents, or even just strangers act in ways, I don’t like; I’ve learned to try and be better. I respond with love and understanding, and let them think and do what they want to do….but keep my own control, set boundaries when needed, and show up in life as the mom, friend, daughter, and human, I want to be. With compassion, empathy, and understanding. I’m learning to be Better ….not…. Bitter.
